hey, real talk:
circa 2015, i was so stressed about going to see my increasingly-shitty republican parents for xmas that I thought seriously about killing myself instead. it was the first real ideation i ever had, despite years of depression.
guess what: if you ever feel like that, don't go :]
I realized I was so frustrated that nothing I did ever seemed to be enough for them, that choosing gifts was an existential crisis. I had a breakthrough, and realized none of it really mattered to me. I got everybody silly gifts, went specifically to see my brother, and then never went back again!!!
if your family stresses you out so badly that you have extreme thoughts;
if they are so unkind, or impossible-to-please, that you only feel pressure to conform;
if for any reason you'd rather just not see your dumbass relatives;
you do! not! have to!
"estranged parents" === "complete assholes"
I'm gonna enjoy a few days off with my cat. My partner went to visit their family, and they have their own whole thing that I didn't want to join, either. Sorry, everybody! I need time to myself, I need to sleep, and I WANT to just relax rather than go through a goddamn crisis over some assholes
and i firmly believe that a significant number of our problems in the united states
are related to protecting our families from the consequences of being fucking nightmares!!!
they can manage their own feelings!
and in the case of transphobes, as always:
